Sexual Anorexia

Most people know that sexual performance is often mind over matter. Emotional problems seem to be weighing heavily on relationships in all age groups, strongly influenced by the pressures of today's world. Without sex - most relationships will end at some point when one partner can break free.


We exist in a world, in case you hadn't noticed, where we have all become therapists trying to analyze and fix our own issues and those of the people we love and interact with.


So what prompts this blog? Female clients come to me with tales about the men they love, physically healthy, don't drink, yet don't want sex at all anymore. These men are not cheating, not gay, and still maintain that they love the women they're with.


So what's wrong? The obvious ... if its not physical, it's emotional. That wasn't 'hard' to figure out. I say it all goes to control issues.


Last week I read a woman (40's and gorgeous) who has lived with a man for the past 5 years (also 40's handsome and healthy). They started with a health sex life and all seemed well in the world. Then the pressures of every day life began to mount and he felt loss of control after which he lost all interest in sex. Recently she watched a TV show about something called Sexual Anorexia, which described him perfectly. When she told him about it, and discussed how similar his symptom were, he refused to listen, stating that he no longer has sexual interest.


There are few men these days who have given up on sex. There are just too many options out there when there is a physical problem. In the case of my client, she has a troubled male who won't get professional help and uses sex as a control tool ... yes ladies ... men can play that game too ... and you know what's going to happen. She is leaving him, especially as she is totally into self-help and the healing arts and he is into frustration which always leads to verbal abuse.



Sexual Anorexia is defined by a set of characteristics:

The sexual anorexic's primary goal is to find ways not to combine intimacy with sex. Both men and women can suffer from this disorder, and most keep silent about it. They initially feel out-of-sorts and don't speak openly about their apathy for fear of being judged negatively in today's society, which values sexual behavior so very highly.


Sexual Anorexia Wikipedia


  Sexual or Intimacy Anorexia   YouTube





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