Self-help 1/11

It's January 14, 2011 and by now many people have broken their annual New Year's Resolutions that enable them to get healthy and be the best that they can be. It is what we all want yet something within the chemistry of our brains tends to sabotage. It is not easy switching that chemistry (DNA programming) off, but one can try when the time feels right.

Along the way we find healers and helpers who connect with those ready for programmed for change.

We also learn that wanting something to be so - is not only difficult to create but even harder maintain, as stress causes sabotage and old patterns resurface in the brain, which is nothing more than an electrochemical machine that reacts to external stimuli and preprogrammed patterns for experience.

By 2011, we have all become healers, coaches, and therapists after a fashion, having read the books, tried one or more programs, in our quest to understand who we are as a single soul and as part of souls group here in this reality as part of a bio-genetic experiment to experience and learn about emotions.

Internally and externally we experience changes every day, sense it is all going someone as this reality makes less and less sense. We believe that the healthier we get, the better we will be able to focus our minds to understand the greater truths about the nature of our reality and what drives us to to our origins.

All you can do is try --> hopefully succeed --> review your old (comfort) patterns --> then try to maintain your personal goals as all shifts into place now.

Do you have a goal? Is it clear? Define it by putting down, right here, right now, in a WORD document or on paper. You can't reach it if it is not something you see as your end game. Be sure to include the word STRESS as that can make it on break it.

Over the past week we have seen Ted Williams, a homeless man from Columbus, Ohio, rise to celebrity status winning the hearts of millions of Americans, but having to return to rehab after the pressures became too much for him. Ted represents the plight of those with substance abuse issues who overcame his dependency, then realized you can't maintain it without ongoing professional help. It is his journey and that of millions of others.

As I watched the story of voice-over artist Ted Williams unfolded, I was not only touched by it, but felt a connection, which didn't make sense. Ted is from Ohio, I am from Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, so how would our paths have crossed?

On Wikipedia I discovered that Ted grew up in Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn, and was 53 years old.

They say everything is timing. For Ted Williams, this is his time and I am so happy for him. It will not be an easy road for him, but I think he can do it and set an example for millions of people in his situation. I have been following the story on Entertainment Tonight, and it would seem he is going into rehab, guided by Dr. Phil. I believe he will do it in the time remaining. I can't wait to see the story of his life.

Dr. Phil takes us to Oprah and another show about physical fitness for 2011. One of Oprah's guests today was Bob Greene.

Bob Greene discussed his latest book "Bob Greene's 5 Ways to Keep Weight Off". You've heard this all before, but below is the 2011 version.

I totally agree that you should put yourself first. The 1 in 2011 is U turning your life around.


From Bob:

Studies say about 80 percent of people who have lost weight gain it all back. Fitness expert Bob Greene says your weight management might not be the problem - it could be how you manage life in general. "It's really about the psychology," he says. "What are the barriers that stand in your way?"

Assessment: Are you ready to lose the weight for good?

Bob says five crucial steps can help you maintain your weight and your life:

1. Have a clear vision of what you want. "Picture your life the way you want it," Bob says. "You could even be the most motivated person on the planet. If you don't have a vision for yourself, your motivation will take you somewhere away from the vision that you want for your life."

Also, make sure your vision is realistic. "If you're 5'4" and you want to be 6'1", have a different vision," he says. "In your heart, you need to know that you can achieve it."

2. Convince yourself that you are deserving. Bob says it's critical to break down this barrier. "[People] feel unworthy because that was reinforced growing up by either an unsupportive adult or authority figure,” Bob says. “You're reconfirming [that] by sabotaging your own efforts.”

3. Identify the biggest barriers holding you back. Bob says there's a big difference between a barrier and an excuse. "I've heard every excuse imaginable - except a good one," he says. "A barrier is more of an issue."

"We all have a natural aversion to discomfort and pain, and that's the irony on both exercise and diet. You don't want to give up. There's some discomfort giving up your favorite foods," he says. "If you're doing exercise right, you have a level of discomfort to get results. And we are wired to avoid discomfort and seek pleasure."

4. Break through the barriers. Bob says the only way to break through a barrier is to identify what's holding you back. "You have barriers for a reason. They're coping mechanisms in many cases," he says. "So many people think getting on the treadmill or turning down your favorite foods is the hard part. That's the easy part. It's these issues and barriers of unworthiness - or being in a toxic relationship is a top one."

Breaking through takes courage, but the benefits could last a lifetime. "I've never seen anyone successful long term that couldn't make at least one or more tough decisions," he says.

5. Put yourself first. "Another way to say that is, 'Get the support you need,'" he says. "It's getting the people in your life on board."

Bob says parents struggle with this the most and too many use their children as an excuse not to make themselves a priority. "What parent would [tell her child], 'Don't take care of yourself?' That's the message your kids are learning," he says. "Putting yourself first is not selfish. It's a way to become a more profound role model for children and those in your life."