June 2006
We are forever seeking the truth about who we are and where we came from.
There's an interesting pattern in my readings to date having to do with people who are adopted.
Actually, many people wonder if they are adopted, feeling no connection to the people who raised them.
As we come to Father's Day, it is interesting to get their perspectives on their adoptive and biological parents.
Love seems to be there in all cases of the adopted children I read. They felt loved and wanted as they grew up, some raised in homes where the adoptive parents already had children of their own and wanted to take in others who are homeless.
Some were adopted from overseas agencies, while others were born in the US.
Some were adopted with another biological sibling.
All felt connected more to the adoptive family whether they had found their biological family or not.
Thanks to the Internet some had found their biological mothers but did not know the whereabouts of their fathers.
Many embrace the energies of both families, their karmic connection being more with the adoptive family.
There are many scenarios pro and con for adoption, yet most of the people I have read through the years feel they had a better upbringing than had they been raised by biological parents, who did not want them, were unable to care for them, or forced to give them up for adoption.
There are many variables with adoption, but I do believe DNA is the key. Finding out the genetic code of biological parents will bring understanding to the patterns of behavior the child will develop. If the genetic codes involve mental illness, alcoholism, etc. the child will, in most cases, follow that pattern, and have a dysfunctional life.
There are as many risks for adults as there are for the children, especially in the case of mental illness or other handicaps they cannot handle which may become too overwhelming in an age where the lessons are about self awareness and finding balance in one's life in a world seemingly gone mad.
Some of my adopted clients seek reunion with their biological parents. The rest feel it will not change anything and don't care.
Father's Day can push buttons as families come together and do not share the same views, adopted or not. This goes to fathers and their issues, old and new, and how they have influenced their children's lives. Issues ... issues ... issues ... In a world of marriage, remarriage, step-parents who adopt children, things can get interesting and often confusing, yet most people know who their father figure is and will honor him accordingly. He is the man who is there for you and is not abusive. Not everyone is equipped for parenting. Think long and hard before you make that choice.
Email from a male reader who was adopted ...
I have been waiting and wanting to write to you for quite some time now, I was waiting for the right reason/means.
It's funny how this is the second time this year you brought up adoption, as I have been dealing with issues revolving around adoption for myself as well as for my daughter.
I am an adoptee from Nova Scotia in Canada, the land of the Masons.
The only thing I know about my biological parents is that they were young (20's) when they had me, and that my mother's maiden name is Pye. This is the only information I have been able to gather due to the fact that there was an information ban on adoption records in the year I was "handled" by children's aid.
All this set aside, I grew up knowing my whole life that I was adopted. It had little or no effect on my life emotionally. I am grateful that my natural parents chose to have me and opt for adoption to give me a shot at a better life. My adoptive parents always tried their best to explain to us that they wanted to be the best parents they could for us. They were not able to bear children themselves, so they chose to look for adoptees.
Now that I am older, I have a daughter of my own. I almost lost her in a bitter separation. I know the difficulties faced by being a young parent. My current partner also has a child who I have taken under my wing as my own. Ironically he bears the King's name of Darius.
Children are the hope for the world, if we do not care for them, they will not care for us in the future.
My metaphysical journey has brought me to many places and situations revolving around the same things Ellie, a bloodline, adoption, initiation, teaching, and preaching.
I am an Atenist priest, and with that comes high importance for the family and its treasures eternal. Unfortunately for me however, not knowing my actual roots has left me with more questions than answers sometimes.
I know that Pye is an old anglo-saxon name, meaning Glory in the Cross, it also brings me right back to Sacred Geometry, the Phi ratio and its close tie with Pi.
My travels have often brought me to Enoch and Central America, Yeshu and the Middle East, and for the last year....to you!
Thank you for reading this, it means everything to me.
In peace,
JP