January 6, 2025

The first Monday of the year is known as Divorce Day, an unofficial term that points to the spike in divorce filings lawyers see in January.

Divorce is a multifaceted topic that I blogged about many times over the past 29 years.

Sometimes it's amicable, but mostly it's not with one person wanting the divorce and the other wanting the relationship to continue for better or worse - and for whatever the psychology of the relationship is about.

Therapists, counselors, life coaches, psychics, healers, energy workers, and all sorts of people linked to "working on oneself" emerge to put things in perspective.

Never overthink. Don't worry about what others say about you. It's your life.

I have read so many clients going through a divorce I often feel like a divorce lawyer.

It comes down to the programming of both people ... then 'just like that' it's over.

Yo-yo relationships generally don't last and generally neither do long distance relationships.

Divorce is emotional, financial, subjective, and rarely easy.

It's the stuff films, soap operas and TV shows are made of.

Everyone has a story.

The days of waiting for the twin flame, soul mate, or whatever term you choose to use is pretty much over as people struggle to make sense of their programming.

We all know the basic reasons for divorce but mostly it's a realization by the two people involved that they have shared whatever they were supposed to - their programming complete - and now are either going to be happier alone, or move on with another partner.

Age often has no bearing on divorce as we have seen.

Gen Z does it though most are smart enough to wait until they are ready for marriage before they try it. Millennials do it but often grow past marriage.

Baby Boomers have their share of stories depending on how old they are.

Once divorced or widowed seniors generally prefer to live separately from any partner and not be caretakers. They want to benefit from the perks of being a senior 'friend' - often with 'benefits'. They want to be happy and enjoy life. They have also learned that if you move someone into your home, it's not so easy to get them out. Anxiety and stress for senior years will definitely lead to serious health issues. Avoid!

When last I read up on divorce 50% of married couples - or those living together - will divorce. Then you have to ask yourself ... how happy are the other 50%?

If you're starting 2025 thinking it's time to move on from your current relationship, then have a discussion and go ahead. You've obviously thought about it for some time and realize coming into a new year is a good incentive. The desire for a new life is most important for your sanity. If you can afford it ... go for it.

Do you know who you are and what you want on the most basic of attainable topics?

Do you know if you are capable of being in a positive relationship or do you need drama due to mental illness?

Life is short ... and shrinking every day.

Forget past lives - future lives - the multiverse - and quantum experiences.

You only live once. Make the most of it.