May 24, 2024

When you come from a large family - who are your karmic/soul group - you play out most your experiences in physical reality primarily with those people as they occupy most of your time and energy. They become your friends and confidants in life.

For the rest of us - as I am an only child - we create friendships with different groups of people - school, jobs, neighbors, people of like mind, and so on. Friends come and go as we change our lives, values, and who we can trust with the personal details of our lives.

In today's world, many people let go of friends who are needy and live in drama due to their emotional problems. These are the people who 'back-stab' us, causing conflict and pain. The same holds true with romantic relationships. If you can't trust the other person, then take the friendship to a more casual level, or just let it go.

Then are the new wave of friends - those we meet online who share common interests. Within 6 months after I joined Facebook I had 5,000 friends - the maximum. I requested none of the friendships - they all found me through past interactions. Many are clients, family, and friends through the years - but most are part of the millions of readers who visit Crystalinks. I post there most days based on my blogs and other experiences.

Friendships can often be classified in groups - from the closest to those we speak to on occasion. That begs the question: How many friends are BFF - confidants? Generally there are 2 or 3 friends at a given time and those people can change through the years. Confidants can be like therapists for us if they can be objective and we respect what they say.

I chose my close friends based on fun (we laugh all the time), mental stability (it's not about issues), intelligence (great conversations and sharing), and the fact that we 'get each other' meaning our grids align and we are in the 'same place' emotionally and consciously.

How about you? How do you handle friendships? Do you ever need to take a beak from friends due to depression or other issues in your life? Remember ... we live in duality ... a bipolar reality ... so little remains in balance.